A close friend of mine posted this story on Facebook yesterday, and it’s one of those things that you’ve thought about before, but never really thought about it. After reading this story, it just reconfirms why I wanted to start this blog in the first place. I don’t necessarily wear crazy prints and colors like Lauren Stardust, but that just means I haven’t freed myself from the very thing Lauren is talking about. My own internalized misogyny (which Lauren describes as an “”involuntary internalization by women of the sexist messages that are present in their societies and culture”) is completely intertwined with my internalized prejudice. In fact, I would say it might even be stronger than my internalized misogyny.
Again, it just validates the whole reason I started this blog. It’s no mystery who some of the more famous non-white bloggers are, but for years I’ve felt like they never casually talked about how being a POC influenced their lives – and more specifically style choices, the very thing they’re famous for. And maybe I’m wrong. Maybe it doesn’t. But for me, being a POC influences so much of my life. Both good and bad of course. Bad: I try to steer clear of flouncy fit and flare dresses to avoid looking too doll-ish. As a Chinese American female, “doll-ish” is something I’ve actively avoided my whole adult life in order to be taken seriously. Good: A lot of times people thing I’m innocent because “hey, I’m a small Asian girl and what harm could I do?” Really plays in my favor whenever I want to be a little mischievous.😈
Other than giving myself the space to create, I also wanted to use this blog as a platform to talk about how internalized misogyny and prejudice really does affect my style choices and influence how I perceive and navigate the world. And I really applaud Lauren for being able to confront those internalized oppressions head on. I have yet to get that far. But maybe, that journey is about to be written right before your eyes. Now wouldn’t that be something?😏